I do believe that you are configuring correctly. The issue is on our end, mainly, we did not completely test all aspects of using JomSocial with this module.
I had to add a debugging feature because this module has evolved into a much bigger beast than what we originally created. Once I have finished adding the debugging, I'd be happy to send you a revision, maybe it will help identify the problem.
I'd love to change the world... but they won't give me the source code!